Week 1- Day 1
Life is about Relationships and we need to know how to keep and maintain them. We all need one another.
In life relationships don't die but are murdered. When ever relations break, we point out at the other person.
A relationship is like a thread. The more the knots in a thread the shorter the thread, likewise, the more the hatred in relations, the more the relations break!
There are three things in life that we have to avoid and that can murder our relationship with others:
1. EGO:
The biggest enemy of relations is EGO. Between family members, society and countries, Ego is the biggest reason for all kinds of fights. First of all let us understand what is Ego? If "I" comes in between any relation, it would end the relation. A TEAM breaks when I comes in between. The ego is a deep desire to dominate.
The ego says," I am always right, special, higher, bigger, greater than you"
Ego does the work of wall in a building of relations. Ego does the work of acid that spoils milk and does the work of a stone that when thrown brings ripples in water.Till date, Ego has not done one good thing in relations.We have to avoid ego in order to maintain our relations.
"The world is burning in the fire of desire, in greed, arrogance and excessive ego.”
Our body is made up of oxygen, food, water and medicine. Some relations are like water to us, some like food without which we cannot live and some are like medicines that we take only until we are ill. In our life is there even a single relation that is like oxygen to us? Is there any such relation without which we cannot live? If a relation breaks, does it disturb us or not? We have know how to ask for forgiveness and also forgive.
"Apologizing does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego".
Surdas was a devotee of Lord Krishna. Once he fell down in a pit. He remembered Shree Krishna and trusted the Shree Krishna will come to save him. Like he had thought Shree Krishna came and gave his hand to pull him out of the pit. Surdas thought that his Lord had come after such a long wait and hence will not let him go so easily. When Shree Krishna pulled him out, Surdas held his hand firmly and did not let him go. But Shree Krishna in any case left his hand and went away. No matter what Surdas was very devoted to Shree Krishna. He never brought his ego in between.
Sudhama was devoted to Shree Krishna, Hanuman was devoted to Shree Ram and Gautama was devoted to Lord Mahavira. Do we have one such relation with anyone person in our lives?
"Leave Ego, Otherwise Everyone Would Leave You"
We maintain good relations until our needs our met. We become selfish in relations and then end the relations when we don't require them anymore. Whenever ego comes in between, we have to tell ego," Don't come near me. Stay away!" . Ego murders relationships. Today there are so many divorce cases in India? Why? Because of ego between a husband and wife! Relationships between father and son, mother and daughter, brothers are all ending because of ego.
For eg, If someone picks our pocket and runs away, does he come to us for a solution or do we go to him?
We go to him because we want to save our money. We save out fingers when we cut our nails. So why don't we take the first step to save relations with our loved ones?
When we forgive our family members for anything they have done to us, it means, " I don't want to save my ego, I want to save my relations".
In life, have we got anything as per our choice? None of these are of our choice - our Birth, Birth place, our body, Family members, Parents,God, Religion. The why an egoistic attitude? If we don't have a good relation with the gardener, then why do talk of leaving the garden? Even a small kid has ego in him. When he falls down, he would see around him if anyone has seen him and then cries.
The biggest enemy of dedication towards someone is ego. Ego will never let you be dedicated to anyone.
A Joke: A boy got 92% in his exams and even then he wanted to go for tuition's
His mother asked," Son, why do you want tuition's when you have got such good marks?"
The son replied," Mother, why do you want a servant when you health is so good?"
There are examples of beautiful relationships as well. A husband was going on the way and an astrologer asked him to show his hand. The husband showed his hand and the astrologer told him about his future. Then the astrologer asked the wife to show her hand. The wife replied," My husband and I am one from the day we got married. You have already seen my husband's hand. So there is no question of me showing you my hand".
Once a boy and a girl were about to get married. The girl's mother asked the boy," Where will you take my daughter after marriage?" The boy said, " I will take her to Kashmir, Shimla, Darjeeling". The mother replied," No, take her to America". The boy said," I do not have enough finance now to take her to America. I will take her when I earn that much". The mother started arguing that the boy has to take the girl to America. When the boy denied, the mother asked the girl to end the relationship with the boy and the wedding did not take place.The mother'e ego was the reason this relationship had ended.We are ready to save ego but not relations. Ego is never ready to bend!
There was once a poor man named Saajan. He was poor by wealth but rich in his thoughts. Once while digging the house, he and his wife found a pot of gold. He told his wife that this gold pot did not belong to them as they lived in a rented house. They both decided to give the Gold pot to the landlord the next day. The poor man's wife then asked him to give the gold pot to the landlord as soon as possible because she felt that their mind may change due to poverty. They did not want to take the risk, The man went to the landlord's house but was initially not allowed to go inside by the security guard. But he begged and went inside. The landlord scolded him and said," Why have you come here?" The man replied, " Sir, only you can solve my problem and I want you to come to my house". Tears rolled down his eyes and he asked him to come immediately. The landlord thought that the situation must be critical and agreed to go. He asked the reason but the man said he will tell the reason only after reaching home.
When the landlord reached his house, Saajan showed the gold pot to him. The landlord asked what was that. Saajan then explained that the gold pot belonged to the landlord as he found it while digging the house. The landlord was astonished. He said, " I had also tried to dig the house earlier but never found any gold pot. This is because of your luck you have found it and hence it belongs to you". Saajan then replied, " But I stay in the top floor and I found the pot in the ground floor, so it belongs to you".
Both of them were not fighting for the gold pot but to give the pot to the other. We have seen people fighting for property but have we seen people fighting to give away the property?
Sometimes, even if we are right, we have to forgive and save the relation. If we are going to keep Right and Wrong in the center, there always be a battle in our mind. But if keep Good and Bad in the center, then there will be a solution. Never be egoistic. Egoism is a trait that will lead to disrepute
"Sugar enters in every sweet, Ego enters in every topic".
Remember, in life, if don't find a Guru, make your conscious your Guru and it will definitely give you the right answer. Never make your mind the Guru. The five fingers of our hand are different from each other but there is a lot of co-operation between them. When our mobile charge drains off, we charge the battery. Likewise, we have to recharge our relations.
To be continued...
Recharge Your Relations
Life is about Relationships and we need to know how to keep and maintain them. We all need one another.
In life relationships don't die but are murdered. When ever relations break, we point out at the other person.
A relationship is like a thread. The more the knots in a thread the shorter the thread, likewise, the more the hatred in relations, the more the relations break!
There are three things in life that we have to avoid and that can murder our relationship with others:
1. EGO:
Ego is the only requirement to destroy any relationship
So, Be a bigger person, skip the 'e' and let it 'go'
The biggest enemy of relations is EGO. Between family members, society and countries, Ego is the biggest reason for all kinds of fights. First of all let us understand what is Ego? If "I" comes in between any relation, it would end the relation. A TEAM breaks when I comes in between. The ego is a deep desire to dominate.
The ego says," I am always right, special, higher, bigger, greater than you"
Ego does the work of wall in a building of relations. Ego does the work of acid that spoils milk and does the work of a stone that when thrown brings ripples in water.Till date, Ego has not done one good thing in relations.We have to avoid ego in order to maintain our relations.
"The world is burning in the fire of desire, in greed, arrogance and excessive ego.”
Our body is made up of oxygen, food, water and medicine. Some relations are like water to us, some like food without which we cannot live and some are like medicines that we take only until we are ill. In our life is there even a single relation that is like oxygen to us? Is there any such relation without which we cannot live? If a relation breaks, does it disturb us or not? We have know how to ask for forgiveness and also forgive.
"Apologizing does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego".
Surdas was a devotee of Lord Krishna. Once he fell down in a pit. He remembered Shree Krishna and trusted the Shree Krishna will come to save him. Like he had thought Shree Krishna came and gave his hand to pull him out of the pit. Surdas thought that his Lord had come after such a long wait and hence will not let him go so easily. When Shree Krishna pulled him out, Surdas held his hand firmly and did not let him go. But Shree Krishna in any case left his hand and went away. No matter what Surdas was very devoted to Shree Krishna. He never brought his ego in between.
Sudhama was devoted to Shree Krishna, Hanuman was devoted to Shree Ram and Gautama was devoted to Lord Mahavira. Do we have one such relation with anyone person in our lives?
"Leave Ego, Otherwise Everyone Would Leave You"
We maintain good relations until our needs our met. We become selfish in relations and then end the relations when we don't require them anymore. Whenever ego comes in between, we have to tell ego," Don't come near me. Stay away!" . Ego murders relationships. Today there are so many divorce cases in India? Why? Because of ego between a husband and wife! Relationships between father and son, mother and daughter, brothers are all ending because of ego.
For eg, If someone picks our pocket and runs away, does he come to us for a solution or do we go to him?
We go to him because we want to save our money. We save out fingers when we cut our nails. So why don't we take the first step to save relations with our loved ones?
When we forgive our family members for anything they have done to us, it means, " I don't want to save my ego, I want to save my relations".
In life, have we got anything as per our choice? None of these are of our choice - our Birth, Birth place, our body, Family members, Parents,God, Religion. The why an egoistic attitude? If we don't have a good relation with the gardener, then why do talk of leaving the garden? Even a small kid has ego in him. When he falls down, he would see around him if anyone has seen him and then cries.
The biggest enemy of dedication towards someone is ego. Ego will never let you be dedicated to anyone.
A Joke: A boy got 92% in his exams and even then he wanted to go for tuition's
His mother asked," Son, why do you want tuition's when you have got such good marks?"
The son replied," Mother, why do you want a servant when you health is so good?"
There are examples of beautiful relationships as well. A husband was going on the way and an astrologer asked him to show his hand. The husband showed his hand and the astrologer told him about his future. Then the astrologer asked the wife to show her hand. The wife replied," My husband and I am one from the day we got married. You have already seen my husband's hand. So there is no question of me showing you my hand".
"Ego closes your eyes for the truth
Selflessness opens them
Ego makes you lose your self respect
Selflessness gains it "
Once a boy and a girl were about to get married. The girl's mother asked the boy," Where will you take my daughter after marriage?" The boy said, " I will take her to Kashmir, Shimla, Darjeeling". The mother replied," No, take her to America". The boy said," I do not have enough finance now to take her to America. I will take her when I earn that much". The mother started arguing that the boy has to take the girl to America. When the boy denied, the mother asked the girl to end the relationship with the boy and the wedding did not take place.The mother'e ego was the reason this relationship had ended.We are ready to save ego but not relations. Ego is never ready to bend!
There was once a poor man named Saajan. He was poor by wealth but rich in his thoughts. Once while digging the house, he and his wife found a pot of gold. He told his wife that this gold pot did not belong to them as they lived in a rented house. They both decided to give the Gold pot to the landlord the next day. The poor man's wife then asked him to give the gold pot to the landlord as soon as possible because she felt that their mind may change due to poverty. They did not want to take the risk, The man went to the landlord's house but was initially not allowed to go inside by the security guard. But he begged and went inside. The landlord scolded him and said," Why have you come here?" The man replied, " Sir, only you can solve my problem and I want you to come to my house". Tears rolled down his eyes and he asked him to come immediately. The landlord thought that the situation must be critical and agreed to go. He asked the reason but the man said he will tell the reason only after reaching home.
When the landlord reached his house, Saajan showed the gold pot to him. The landlord asked what was that. Saajan then explained that the gold pot belonged to the landlord as he found it while digging the house. The landlord was astonished. He said, " I had also tried to dig the house earlier but never found any gold pot. This is because of your luck you have found it and hence it belongs to you". Saajan then replied, " But I stay in the top floor and I found the pot in the ground floor, so it belongs to you".
Both of them were not fighting for the gold pot but to give the pot to the other. We have seen people fighting for property but have we seen people fighting to give away the property?
Sometimes, even if we are right, we have to forgive and save the relation. If we are going to keep Right and Wrong in the center, there always be a battle in our mind. But if keep Good and Bad in the center, then there will be a solution. Never be egoistic. Egoism is a trait that will lead to disrepute
"Sugar enters in every sweet, Ego enters in every topic".
Remember, in life, if don't find a Guru, make your conscious your Guru and it will definitely give you the right answer. Never make your mind the Guru. The five fingers of our hand are different from each other but there is a lot of co-operation between them. When our mobile charge drains off, we charge the battery. Likewise, we have to recharge our relations.
To be continued...
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