Recharge Your Relations- Week 2

                                                                        Week - 2

A man was going home from the railway station in the night. He had lakhs of rupees in his purse. He was constantly checking and was worried if someone would rob him. He took a taxi. The man was constantly seeing the taxi driver from the mirror and kept talking to him so that he can divert his attention. The taxi driver did not say anything. In the morning when he reached home he asked the taxi driver, " You knew that I had lots of money in my purse. You did not speak anything. What were you thinking?" The taxi driver replied, " I was just thinking when would that time come when you will be in my position and I will be in yours". On every tree of relation there will be termites to end the relation.

If a man has qualities of a woman in him then he becomes a great soul. A woman's nature does not have cruelty or rudeness. If a woman has qualities of a man in her then she might become a slut. Great men, Saints and God all have the qualities of woman in them - Kind nature, Humbleness and Purity and tolerant.

A man's nature is composed of anger, cruelty, rudeness, greed etc. In such cases, a new relation can never be made and an existent relation can never exist.

There are two things to watch out for:
1. Excess(अधिक):

A person who runs behind excess can never stay at home. We are all running behind excess wealth. We need more and more. What we have is never enough. A person who thinks about excess does not have relations or connections. Why is there such madness behind excess. Till when would we keep running? Life is short.
An athlete was once running in the Olympics. He was running and everyone was cheering him up. He kept running and he thought he would not reach his goal, but before he could reach, he fell down, got an attack and died.
A rich man is away from home and his family but a poor man is always with his family.
A small kid keeps waiting for his father to bring sweets for him. He controls his sleep and waits for his father, but the father never comes. Finally at around 10 pm, his father arrives. He asks his father for chocolates. His father replies that he has forgotten to bring them and gives the son Rs 1000/- . The kid's mother on seeing this says, " Don't you feel ashamed. Our son is asking for chocolates and you are giving him Rs 1000/-?" The father asks, " Is Rs 1000 very less? Should I give more?" The mother replies, " Lets do one thing. I have not prepared dinner for you. I will keep Rs 2000/- in your plate. You have your dinner". A man might be a successful businessman but an unsuccessful father.
A person who has less money is indigent. But a person who feels he does not have enough money is miserable. When do we plan to change? If not now, then when?

"Anything in excess is poison"

Here is a real life story:
A man had an export business and he used to work from 7am to 9pm. His wife used to always ask him to go at 10 am and come back by 5 pm so that he can spend time with his wife and kids. The man never listened to his wife and he used to say that he is running behind money for his kid's future.
One day is happened that the husband was in the office, the kids were in the school. The wife was watching TV and there were vulgar scenes shown. Her servant was right behind her watching the same scenes. The atmosphere was perfect and a scene happened between both of them. This went on for quite some time. The servant one day said that her husband will come to know of their relation some day or the other. The wife said, " I will not take any risk. Kill him". One night, when the man was sleeping, his wife and the servant killed him and cut him into many pieces and put the pieces in a suitcase. The watchman by chance saw a finger outside the suitcase and complained to the police. The police arrested her and she was thrown out of her flat and her own family. Gurudev met this woman and asked her why had she done such a thing. She cried and replied," I know what I have done is wrong. But what can I do? Even I have desires. I used to ask my husband to take out time for me and my kids, but he never used to listen to us and I did this".
What the lady did was definitely wrong but the root cause of what she had done was because her husband has not given her enough time.
We are available 24 hours for money but we are not available for our wife, mothers, kids etc. We run behind excess wealth all our life and when our last moment comes, we realize that there was no meaning in running so much.
If a dog runs behind a vehicle, it will never reach the vehicle. Even if it does reach, it will not be able to sit in the vehicle. Even if it is able to sit in the vehicle, a dog will remain a dog. Similarly we run behind our ambition without even knowing where to stop and we end up achieving nothing in our life.

2. Stay away from Your Rights:

If we are going to think of our rights first, we will never be able to maintain our relations. What comes first in front of our eyes - What is my right or What is my duty?
The elder son thinks it is his right to get equal property. He files a case in the court against his own father to fight for his rights. Fights happen, relations end when rights are given more importance than duty. We have all forgotten our duty towards our family and our loved ones.
There was family that had eight son's and eights daughter in laws. The smallest son got married just 6 months back. The youngest daughter in law was modern and did a huge shopping. She bought five saree's each worth Rs 20,000/- . The father in law then asked the eldest daughter in law to also shop as per her wish. But the eldest daughter in law replied," The youngest daughter in law is modern. She is our sweet little sister. I don't mind if she does a huge shopping". The father in law was impressed and said that you are thinking about your duty first. I will manage your rights".